Redefining Sexy

Sexy

Several months ago, my husband and I were in Las Vegas and were taken aback by a bunch of 20-somethings heading out to go clubbing. They were dressed to impress – complete with skirts up to their choochilas and tops so low cut that everything short of nipples was exposed! I’m not talking short – I’m talking obscene!

Some of these gals were stunning with great bodies and others were a bit on the “hefty” side. But it didn’t matter! They looked like they could’ve been working Hollywood and Vine (ya know from Pretty Woman).

Let’s imagine one of these girls met the “Man of her dreams” at the bar dressed like hooker. What do you think the man is going to expect that night? I’m sure most of these gals probably do have morals, but based on what they were wearing, they’re simply sending out the “you’re going to get lucky” message. 

Allow me to sound like grandma now. (Wait, I really am one – but Niccie calls me “Tutu” so it doesn’t count.) Anyway, in my day, I think I was pretty hot – I wore everything from blonde wigs to rubber dresses at UndercoverWear Fashion Shows – and I certainly had the “strut” down pat. 

But if I think back to when I was dating my husband, I hope I looked sexy without ever coming close to looking like a hooker!

Young women today should learn that sexy doesn’t mean looking X rated. Marilyn Monroe was the ultimate sex symbol for blonde; Sophia Loren had raw sex appeal; and don’t forget Grace Kelly’s class and aristocratic sex appeal. Obviously, my age is showing, but seriously, I find these legendary ladies far sexier than Pam Anderson or Lady Gaga.

Of course men love to look at women with big boobs in low cut dresses the size of a bandage - unquestionably they do. But then again, even my husband says, “Men are pigs.”

Now, that’s out of a man’s mouth, so don’t start writing letters. You’ve all heard the story about the “Men are pigs and deserve to fry” club my friends formed when their husbands cheated on them. They all still have the 18k gold pig pins and custom t-shirts I had designed for club members only! 

I digress… The bottom line is this – look sexy, but look like a lady. Here’s my take on sexy at every age:

20 year olds think they have to look sexy 

30 year olds think they’re naturally sexy

40 year olds act sexy  (yep, enter confidence)

50 year olds wonder if they’re too old to be sexy

60 year olds want someone – ANYONE – to say they’re sexy

70 year olds try to remember sexy

80 year olds are glad they don’t have to be sexy

90 year olds – by God – they are SEXY!

Remember this ladies, sexy is what sexy does!

Countdown to Valentine's Day

As everyone knows, Valentine’s Day is about a month away. And for the next 30 days, men and women will be thinking about love and romance.  This couples’ holiday is the most celebrated event each year – yes, even more than birthdays or anniversaries. For ONE night (out of 365), couples are invited to get romantic.

Don’t you think there’s something wrong with that? 

Let’s start with you, ladies…

Imagine you’re going out with girlfriends for a really nice lunch. I’m confident you’ll “fluff and buff” and spend time deciding which outfit to wear down to the best-looking shoes.  At the same time, if you’re in a relationship, I want to you think about what you wear to bed at night. I’m going to bet you spend much more time trying to look good for your girlfriends, than you do each night for your husband or boyfriend.

Of course, this is AFTER he’s become your man...it was much different before you sealed the deal! Back then, you actually really spent time being loving, feminine and downright sexy.

It really boggles my mind when I hear younger women talking about their “romance attire.” They can’t see themselves wearing a corset and high heels in the bedroom. The thought of greeting a man at the door in a sexy little frilly apron and nothing else sounds silly to these girls. I’ve even heard them say, “that’s anti-woman.”

Are you serious?

I know. I’m just a “little old lady” who believed in “barefoot and pregnant,” made porridge and served my man. Every word out of my mouth was, “Yes dear.”  

Yeah, right.  If you believe that, you’ve obviously never met me!

For all you doubters, let me refresh your memory on my crusade to get women ahead in this world AND help them feel sexy all at the same time…

I started UndercoverWear at the height of the Women’s Movement – women were burning their bras and wearing men’s three-piece suits. Femininity was OUT and equality with men was IN!

Helen Gurley Brown, Cosmopolitan Mag editor wrote a ridiculous book, “Having it All.” She said women should get up every morning, look gorgeous, make breakfast, run off to work where she  should do more than her male colleagues, THEN come home to make dinner, be sexy and  be ready to make love “on demand.” 

Well, during a heated conversation at a New York luncheon, where I was seated with Ms. Gurley Brown, I called her out on her unrealistic expectations of women. I said her plan was “impossible to achieve”…I was never invited back to lunch.

Then, there was the debate with Gloria Steinem (then editor of Ms. Magazine) about her perception that there is no difference between men and women. I suggested she take a course in anatomy and said that while I do believe in equality (same job, same pay), I do NOT believe we are the same! When men can have babies, we will then be one and the same. I told her, “I will compete with any man in the boardroom, but my bedroom must never become a ‘bored’ room.”

Let’s not forget, ladies, Savvy Magazine made a list of the most-successful businesswomen, but they dedicated five pages (not just a listing) to UndercoverWear and me!

Sure, I’m just a fluffy little bowl of whipped cream whose only desire is to make my husband happy. Not exactly. I am a woman who can honestly answer “yes” to the question, “Have you ever used whipped cream for anything other than dessert?”  

I just don’t understand why this younger generation wears mini skirts and fabulous stilettos to the clubs to catch a guy, but thinks a t-shirt and baggy pants is okay once she has him.

If women really believe men have changed that much in what they like to see their women wearing, then take another look! Maxim, Playboy and Penthouse are still some of the best selling men’s magazines and we all know what those girls are wearing. If you ask 100 heterosexual men to describe what his fantasy woman would be wearing, it ain’t gonna be flannel pjs and big fat fluffy slippers.

So, between now and Valentine’s Day, you’re going to get the romance “wrath of Tiffany.” I will hopefully help a generation of women who struggle with balancing careers, motherhood, femininity, sexiness and relationships (yes, including romance, sensuality, and fantasy). Boy I’ve got my work cut out for me.

I may not be an expert, but I’ve been doing something right for a while now. I’ve done all of the above for a long time and I’ve enjoyed every role I’ve CHOSEN to play.

Well, obviously I’m on a roll. I’d love to hear your comments or answer your questions. We’ve got a lot to talk about.