Relax.

I really loved all the answers you gave when we asked, “What do you do to relax after a long, stressful day?” Not surprisingly, the number one response was “have a cocktail.” We all know the short-term benefits of alcohol – tension relief, relaxation and the notion that all our problems have faded away – at least temporarily.

My husband and I enjoy an evening vodka martini at just about 6pm every night! For us, it’s less of a stress reducer and more of a social time to chat and catch up on our day.

So what do I do to relax? I have a whole list of techniques starting with mind, body and soul, and then adding in some fun and joy!

MIND: I determine the cause of my stress – why am I suddenly feeling more angst? How is today different than yesterday? Am I worrying about things that may or may not happen? Am I overwhelmed? Is this a real problem? Am I simply feeling out of control?  Finally, I ask how my stress level compares to life or death situations. Usually, that puts things into perspective.

BODY: Time to do some gentle stretches or jump in the pool – naked. Taking a wonderful warm bubble bath while listening to opera can also help. If at all possible, get a massage.

SOUL: I take a few minutes to really breathe. I walk outside, appreciate what I have and think about all the joys I’ve experienced in life. I count my blessings and throw in a “Thank you, Lord” prayer. Then, I usually write a note to someone I care about.

FUN: I love to watch My Big Fat Greek Wedding or The Devil Wears Prada. I paint cards with watercolors. I hula-hoop for 15 minutes. I dance around the disco to “Dancing Queen.” I call my friend Dan because he has the most hilarious sense of humor. For the most fun, I call my son who always makes me laugh.

JOY: This is easy – I call one of my sisters or Skype with my granddaughter. I kiss my husband 10 times in a row. I play “Never on Sunday” and think of my parents. I call someone who needs to have her spirits lifted. I send my daughter-in-law a card telling her how grateful I am that she makes our son so happy. I think about all the women that UndercoverWear has helped.

Then, I have a martini!